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3 Reasons Why 'Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood' Is The Best Kid's Show on TV (And Why You Should Be Watching It Too!)

5/10/2019

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**Note- I in no way, shape, or form have any affiliation with Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood or the Mr. Roger's Foundation. I just love it and think it's worth having a discussion about!**

"It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood, a beautiful day for a neighbor. Would you be mine? Could you be mine? Won't you be my neighbor?"

At any given time during the day, 5 different Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood jingles are swimming around my head.  To give some context, I have a 2.5 year-old daughter and it is the only show she really enjoys watching, so we watch it a lot in our house.  But I think this show is brilliant, and I think it very strategically accomplishes a lot of really great things that is of value for children.  Now, if you don't know about Daniel Tiger, it is an animated television show produced by Fred Rodger's Productions (that's right....THE Mr. Roger's), and is a spin-off of Mr. Roger's Neighborhood of Make-Believe.  The show focuses on a lot of the same values, education, and emphasis on emotions that the original show did.  As a mother and a psychologist, I love this show, and I LOVE that my daughter loves this show.  I've said many times- I think a lot of adults would benefit from this show as well. 

Here are my top 3 reasons why Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood is the show you and your kids should be watching:

1.  The show gives language to a whole array of emotional experiences.

For a lot of people (and especially children), talking about feelings is a learned skill and doesn't always come easily.  The earlier we start teaching emotional language, the better.  The show spends many episodes focusing on specific emotional experiences, and helping attach language to the feelings by using jingles that are repeated over and over throughout the theme of the episode.  Whether it's validating feeling sad ("It's okay to feel sad sometimes. Little by little, you'll feel better again."), celebrating feeling happy ("This is my happy song, and I could sing it all day long."), looking for appropriate outlets/coping skills for anger ("When you feel so mad that you want to roar, take a deep breath, and count to four."), or talking about feeling jealous ("When you feel jealous, talk about it, and we'll figure something out."), this show helps toddlers (and their parents) to put words to a whole array of emotions and feelings.  My favorite jingle talks about the concept of ambivalence- an emotional experience that many adults do not even really have language for.  If you don't know what ambivalence means, let me use the show's explanation: "Sometimes you feel two feelings at the same time, and that's okay." So for example, feeling excited but simultaneously nervous, or feeling anger towards someone that you love. Those are some complex emotions, but this show really dives head-first into providing emotional language and normalizing emotional experiences for even the youngest people experiencing them, and I am here for it.

2. It prepares for, normalizes, and discusses common transitions that can be tough.

When we do something new, let's talk about what we'll do." 
Something that Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood does often and well throughout the show is it's emphasis on preparing, normalizing, and discussing common transitions in life that can be tough, especially for little ones. A lot of parents struggle with how to approach these transitions with their kids in a way that is meaningful or developmentally appropriate for them, and Daniel Tiger allows parents a foot in the door by having episodes and jingles on different topics that can then lend to family discussions around those themes, The show has episodes that focus on basic every day things, such as the transition of getting up and starting the day and the transition of getting ready for bed, which can be difficult for some children.  There is an episode about potty training ("When you have to go potty, stop and go right away."), getting a new sibling ("When a baby makes things different, find a way to make things fun."), grown-ups leaving and coming back ("Grown-ups come back to you. Grown-ups come back, they do. Grown-ups come back."), having to leave or stop doing something you're enjoying ("It's almost time to stop, so choose one more thing to do."), being sick and needing to rest ("When you're sick, rest is best, rest is best."), and friends playing with other friends ("Even when friends play with someone new, they will still be friends with you.").  The show even tackled the delicate topic of death ("Ask questions about what happened. It might help.") in a way that is child-appropriate.  What I love about these topics and their associated jingles is that it helps parents to have a developmentally-appropriate way to speak to their children about these transitions and difficult topics, and helps facilitate conversation around them. 

​3.  It highlights different experiences, and focuses on core values and morals that I think everyone can get behind.

As a spin-off of Mr. Rogers, one common thread throughout every episode is it's emphasis on being kind, inclusion, self-love, and instilling in small children values that help to make good people.  And that's something that I think most parents can get behind.  Here are some of my favorite Daniel Tiger jingles that focus on those themes:

"We like different things and that's just fine. Just remember to be kind."
"You can change your hair or what you wear, but no matter what you do- You're still you."
​"Before you take something away, stop and ask if it's okay."
"It's okay to make mistakes. Try to fix them and learn from them, too."
"Look for the helpers."
"Sharing with you is fun for me, too!"
​"You can chose to be kind."

Through repetition in the episodes, these jingles help normalize and remind children of these values and again, give parents a concise and developmentally appropriate way to facilitate language around these themes.





There you have it-  My 3 biggest reasons that I am a Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood fan.  Even though we have watched every episode 100 times (or at least it feels that way!), I am always happy to keep watching it with my daughter, because I think it is excellent for her emotional development.  
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​5 Things I Learned My First Year as a Mom

1/24/2018

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Time for some self-disclosure. In October 2016, I had my first child. I love her to death, but boy, is parenting rough. I have learned a lot throughout my first year of parenting, and wanted to share my experiences (and advice) with you. (Note: As this is based on my experience, wording focuses on “mom”, but can easily be interchanged with any parent/caretaker during that first year)

1. Be kind/patient with yourself. Being a mom is hard.

Most people focus on how you treat your baby (which, of course, is important!). But I think what is equally, if not more important, is how you treat yourself. Being a parent (especially a new parent) is really hard. And a lot of people don’t talk about that. When you announce to people that you are going to have a baby, most people talk about how wonderful and magical the process is. “You’ll love him/her more than you could have ever imagined possible!” “Babies are such a blessing!” While these statements may be true, those people conveniently leave out discussion of all the sleepless nights, possible post-partum depression/anxiety, huge messes, pain, challenges with feeding, crying (of baby and parents), and feelings of helplessness (of baby and parents). And then first time parents encounter these incredible challenges and think that something must be wrong with them that they are struggling so much with these things. No one ever mentioned all of the awful parts, so it must just be them. But guess what? THAT’S THE NORM! People just don’t talk about it! So, be patient with yourself. Parenting has a steep learning curve, and it is hard. And, as a society, we should definitely be talking about the hard stuff.


2. Babies are much more resilient than many new parents think. No matter how much of a “mom fail” you think you committed, your baby is more than likely okay.

I think it is a universal statement that new parents worry about their babies. And many of them worry a lot. To be fair, there is a lot to worry about! When babies are born, not only are they defenseless and completely reliant on you for survival, but throw in illnesses, constant worry about SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome), lack of sleep, injuries…. It’s enough to make a parent sick with worry! But something I definitely learned through the process is how resilient babies are. As long as you are vigilant, trying the best you can, and learning from your mistakes as you go, your baby (and you!) will likely make it safely out the other side.

3. Every baby and every parent are different. When one of your friends tells you the “secret” they discovered to make parenting so much easier, it likely won’t work for you (and visa versa).

Every person with a child will have opinions, anecdotes, home-remedies, and magical solutions for any problem you bring up. Your baby won’t sleep? “You need to sleep train.” “ You need to co-sleep.” “Try a long car ride.” “Feed them to sleep.” “Don’t feed them to sleep.” “Put them down drowsy but awake.” “Rock them to sleep.” “Dim lights.” “Pitch black.” “Sound machine.” “Complete silence.” The contradictions will be endless. And that is okay! They are just sharing what worked for them. But you (and they) need to know that what works for them likely won’t work for you. And may not even work for their next child. Just like we are all different, every baby and their needs/preferences vary greatly. Just keep trying what feels like good fits for you until something works (and even then, know that just when something starts working, things will inevitably change). Learning to be flexible is a huge asset.

4. Make mom friends.

This made a world of difference for me. Being a parent can be hugely isolating if you don’t have a “tribe”. I highly recommend joining some kind of mommy & me group, or other activity groups with your baby. When you are spending long hours every day talking to a little human who can’t communicate back to you, having some fellow companions who are also in the trenches makes a world of difference (even if most of your communication is through texts while cleaning up blow-out diapers or chasing a wild toddler around).

5. Practice lots of self-care, whatever that means for you. Happy you = better parent.

This one is such a simple concept, but so important and often the first to fall by the wayside. I would also include in here that it is important to remember who you are as a person/spouse/employee/any other role you fill outside of being a parent. It is so easy to lose yourself in the role of a parent, but there are so many other facets of who you are that make you you! Don’t forget to nurture those parts of you. And in that vein, practice whatever self-care means for you. Whether that means working out, getting pampered, reading, hiking, bubble baths, watching some mindless television,… it doesn’t really matter what it is. Just make sure you make time to do them (and preferably without your children!).



And of course, if you are struggling with any of these things (or anything else), do not hesitate to reach out for help. As I hope I articulated clearly above, PARENTING IS HARD! Knowing when you need to reach out for help is an incredible tool and will help make you a better parent (and happier person).
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Aimee Robertson-  3 Ways to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Partner

1/14/2016

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Maintaining a strong bond with your romantic partner is very important, especially in a long term committed relationship. If you are in a committed romantic relationship, the stability of your family unit depends on the bond you have with your partner. The stronger your bond, the smoother your household will run, and the healthier your family will be. In the beginning of relationships, when you are initially attracted to your partner, you may have thought everything your partner did or said was the best thing ever! You may have wanted to be around them all the time or know every detail about their lives. As relationships go on this initial spark fades. Some of the things that you initially couldn't get enough of may now be annoying sometimes or there are specific things your partner does that may get under your skin. This is very normal! As time passes you may lose some fireworks but what you gain (hopefully) is a strong bond and shared experiences as you navigate through life together. Maintaining the bond with your partner is not a one time thing, it’s something that needs to continuously be strengthened and maintained. If you’ve been together a while this may be challenging. Here are three ideas to help you strengthen and maintain that beautiful bond with your partner.

  1. Date each other regularly- A common belief is that when you’re in a long term relationship dating is no longer needed. This is not true. Dating is not just for new relationships, it's a great way to spend time together doing something enjoyable and strengthening your bond with your partner. In our busy world it’s difficult to make time to spend with just you and your partner, which is why dating is so important. Set aside time for each other on a routine basis to go on a date, preferably at least once per month. Hold this time as sacred and try your best not to reschedule because your relationship with your partner is very important. If time and/or finances are tight, think out of the box! A date does not have to cost a lot of money or take an entire evening. You and your partner can have a cook-off at home, or reminisce over coffee, or build a pillow fort in your living room. Ultimately, as long as you are spending quality time together the date activity doesn't matter.

  1. Make a new tradition or routine for just you two- Remember how I said that making time for the two of you is important, well this takes it one step further. Create a tradition or routine that is special for just the two of you. It can be something you do annually (like inventing a holiday other than your anniversary, example: our favorite place day) but ideally it is something you two can do together once a week or daily. It’s like having an inside joke that only you two get to be in on. This doesn't have to be something extravagant or time consuming, it can be small and simple. Examples of this are: making a meal together once a week, taking 5-10 minutes before bed to debrief about the day, making morning smoothies,  taking an evening walk together, waking each other up in a special or unique way, or talking about a memory from your relationship once a week on throwback Thursday. Create your new tradition or routine together and get creative. Once you come up with your new weekly/daily routine, give it a name that you can call it like “Omelette Sunday” or “Pre bed talk time.”

  1. Be Silly together- The ability to cope with stressors using humor is a strong predictor of a healthy relationship. In a long term relationship we are sharing our journey through life with our partner through the hard times and the good times. Life provides plenty of hard times, so give yourself some much needed balance by creating good times by having fun and laughing with our partner. Don't be afraid to look a little silly in front of your partner, they may enjoy seeing a vulnerable/goofy side more often and if you can share a laugh together, even better! Laughing and being silly with strengthen your bond and bring you closer, especially in times of high stress when it's most needed.

Hopefully this give you a few ideas to help your relationship flourish. Remember your relationship is something that needs to be maintained through time, not just something you use as needed. Try your best to be consistent and present in your relationship so you and your partner can support each other in the good and the bad. The more consist you are in spending quality time with your partner, the healthier your relationship will become. Your relationship is important, show your partner you value them and your relationship with them.

If you and your partner would like more opportunities to strengthen your bond or need more support in doing so, feel free to contact me about the relationship enhancement group being offered.

-Aimee Robertson, M.A.
Phone: (818) 835-1562
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Autism in Girls and Women

10/10/2015

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Click the link below to read a great article about autism in girls and women, and why it is often so difficult for clinicians to identify.

                                          Autism in Girls and Women

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Tiffany Shelton- Guided Meditation to Reduce Stress

9/11/2015

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I would like to introduce you to Tiffany Shelton, one of my wonderful psych assistants!  Watch her video for an introduction to guided meditation.  Enjoy!
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Tiffany Shelton- How To Find The Best Therapist For You

9/11/2015

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So you've made the decision to go to therapy! That's amazing and congratulations for taking the first step in healing. But now you're faced with the task of finding a therapist to work with. This doesn't have to be daunting. Start with calling to interview therapists you are considering over the phone before committing and use these 3 tips to help find the best therapist for you.

1. Look for specialists.

Save time when searching for a therapist by searching for a therapist that specializes in the specific issue you are seeking therapy for. All therapist are generally trained in most emotional and mental health issues, therefore finding one that specializes in what you are dealing with will not only save you time but guarantee that you get the best care. So when searching online or asking for referrals be sure to use keywords that relate to your problem. When interviewing therapists ask them about their speciality and make sure its a good fit for you.

2. Don't feel confined by your insurance network.

It is a myth that going through your insurance plan is the only affordable way to attain therapy. Furthermore, insurance is not set up to foster the best therapy; it is designed to save the insurance companies money.  There are several highly qualified therapists that offer sliding scales to their customers, making therapy very affordable. Also therapists registered as psychological assistants, are able to charge significantly reduced fees while they are working towards their licensure, giving clients the opportunity to save big bucks while receiving quality therapy. When you go in for a consultation with a therapist, ask them if they offer a sliding scale and don't hesitate to negotiate a fee that you feel is fair with therapists you interview.

3. Notice how you feel when talking with the therapist.

One of key factors of success for therapy is the relationship between the therapist and the client. So follow your gut and take stock of your first impressions of each therapist you interview. It is important you feel comfortable with your new therapist and your first intuition is usually a good indicator of how you will relate with your therapist in the future. And if you are unsure about something you are sensing, I encourage you to ask the therapist questions to  better clarify any preconceived concerns.

I hope this helps you begin this amazing journey, and HAPPY HEALING!

Also if you are looking for a supplement to therapy read Tiffany's blog about the Benefits of Meditation, to learn how to increase your happiness even further. 



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Tolerating Pain for Growth

8/19/2015

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Mindful Meditation for Emotional Wellbeing

7/27/2015

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My psychological assistant, Tiffany Shelton, will be running a group focusing on mindfulness through meditation.  This 7 session group is open to anyone who is seeking to enhance their emotional well-being in a supportive, safe, and inspirational group setting. Reserve your spot today!
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Couples Relationship Enhancement Group

7/23/2015

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My psych assistant, Aimee Robertson, will be leading a group for couples focusing on relationship enhancement.  It will be a great opportunity for couples to gain insight on their relationships and themselves, and in a safe and supportive group environment.  If you are interested, or know someone who might be, please contact Aimee ASAP.  Space is limited, so reserve your spot today!
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Tiffany Shelton-  How to Become a Manifesting Queen (or King)

7/13/2015

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One of the greatest things that I am so grateful that I have learned in this life journey is the power of manifestation. Goals have turned to reality even beyond my own desires or belief. Many of us have read books like the Secret, A New Earth, and of course ancient teachings premiering these thoughts like the Bible, detailing the way in which to manifest our best life. However in applying these teachings, the modern world can be a daunting blank canvas when navigating manifestation success. Furthermore the dynamic circumstances that life throws at us, although organic, in the moment can feel paralyzing in our journey to manifest our visions. Here I describe 3 ways in which I have learned to see manifestation techniques through and truly own living my best life.

One: Make your vision tangible!

            Your vision is your plan, and it is our duty to make this plan as clear as possible. This means creating something physical to begin the process of bringing your vision to reality. Furthermore any plan is only as good as it it’s timeline, so before you begin your process of manifestation, think about a time frame in which you would like to see your vision come to fruition. For me, putting my plan on paper has been a tremendous boost in clarity to my vision. I start with journaling in vast detail what I am grateful for and writing a prayer of gratitude. Then I write down goals for this given time frame, and because I am a visual person I make a corresponding vision board. I treat this process as a sacred ritual, and try to make sure that my energy is in alignment with prosperity. No matter your preferred method of planning, whether vision board, journaling, or something more tactile, make sure to create a detailed map of your goals.

Two: Believing takes more than wishing.

All guides to manifestation prescribe faith and wholeheartedly believing that what you are envisioning will come to be; however few tell us how to harness such faith. What I have found with working with so many clients helping them reach their goals is that emotional well-being is key in believing positive things are destined for you. This includes working through any mental health issues like major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, or even trauma. Such issues thwart manifestation due to devastating symptoms that perpetuate self-sabotage, feelings of insecurity or depletion, and constant vigilance. Therapy with a licensed professional is one of the best ways to treat mental health issues, and help you manifest your best life easier. Other components key in harnessing faith in your plan are loving yourself, aiming for a peaceful life, and blessing others, all of which create abundance in your life that makes it easier to believe in positive changes.

Three: Reflection

One of the most beautiful parts of the manifestation process is the realization of how abundantly blessed you are in every moment. True manifestation requires constant gratitude and internal reflection on the internal peace and happiness we get just from being.  Therefore my manifestation process includes a consistent meditation practice and I truly push myself to constantly honor the divinity within me.  Also noteworthy, reflection is the only true way of realizing when your vision has come to fruition, and many times this is when you realize your goals have been exceeded with unexpected prosperity.

I hope these tips help you become the Manifesting Queen or King that you are! Wishing you many blessings on your journey.

- Tiffany Shelton, M.A.

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